Did that answer my question?
If it did, I missed it.
ETA: Are you saying one must be effeminate to be queer?
I'm saying if you have effeminate traits and are a man you can be.. and if you have masculine traits and are a woman you can be. It's just having traits of the opposite gender as far as your mannerisms. That's how I understand it. Or at least how I define it. they throw around these words like non-binary but its just slang fancy talk. your'e a masculine chick, I get it. or you're a fmeininte man I get it.