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Discussion in 'Off-Topic Chat' started by Axxe55, Jul 7, 2020.

  1. Axxe55

    Axxe55 Professional Troublemaker

    Dec 15, 2019
    I guess you just cherry pick the posts that appeal to you? Wow.

    Maybe read my other posts on this thread before passing judgement the next time.

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  2. cvgunman

    cvgunman Active Member

    Oct 9, 2017
    Mckinney TX
    Sounds like you better sleep with the good eye open :)
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  3. Axxe55

    Axxe55 Professional Troublemaker

    Dec 15, 2019
    Just so everyone understands the full context, as a couple seemed to take exception and wanted to cherry pick my posts!
    Imagine that on a public forum!

    My wife wants or needs nothing. I am a few years older than she is and have lived a very different life than she has. We have a very good marriage, and we communicate on just about everything. If I'm thinking about buying something, we talk about it. Not that I'm asking for her permission, but out of courtesy and respect to her. She deserves nothing less from me. I expect other people to show her respect, so I can't do less than what I expect from others in how they treat her. Besides, she shows an interest in the things that I enjoy, just as much as I do in the things she enjoys. She likes guns and such things, and she loves to go fishing. So we talk about pretty much everything. She also knows I try not to spend money foolishly either.

    There isn't much she and I don't talk about. I do make most of the difficult decisions, since I have more experience with many things than she does. Case in point, when we built our house over sixteen years ago, she had never had her own house, ever. This is my fifth house now that I have owned. So many things related to owning a house I have much more experience at and I know how to deal with issues she has never dealt with before. We do discuss these things, so she knows what is going on. I don't do much without talking to her first, because she is my wife, and my partner. And there are times we discuss things, and she comes up with a good suggestion and we have gone with that instead of what I might have planned on doing. That is why we talk about everything. I keep no secrets from her, ever.

    She has seen me at my worst and at my best. She has always had my back, and and always stood with me, even when I was wrong about something.

    We talk about just anything at times. We laugh and joke with each other. I still enjoy her company. How many married couples can say that after 18 years of marriage? I have no idea, but I can say, I'm hoping for at least another 18 years with this wonderful woman.
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  4. mad88minute

    mad88minute Active Member

    Oct 13, 2017
    We are in a similar situation. My wife dosent need to work, but chooses to. She uses her paycheck to pay for her car payment, and extracurriculars for the kids.
    She pays for softball, piano, golf, violin. Anything the kids want to get into.
    She is so frugal this is the inly way she can stay sane paying for my kids.

    Also, i have a hard field position. Some times looking fwd to a new purchase gets me thru a long shift.

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  5. Whistler

    Whistler Well-Known TGT Supporter

    Jan 28, 2014
    Northeast Texas
    After 30 years together we have a system that works for us. I try to loop her in on finances but as someone else said I have things earmarked for certain accounts. She asks me on major purchases to make sure we can afford it and what account to use. Nobody asks permission.

    After my parents moved out of our guest cabin she wanted to rent it out. I told her it was all hers have fun but she chooses to pay a few utilities with the rent she collects. The rest goes into her account which she usually spends on this grandkid or that. Occasionally I transfer some money over there if she tells me she's short on something.

    Otherwise she only knows the plan I juggle in my head not the details. I buy her anything she asks for, I buy whatever I want.

    Recently she's been after me to buy myself a new truck. I have '97 Z71 that I'm happy with, with this RV and the food trailer I'm considering I may need to but I'm good for now.

    My only complaint is every trip to town has a number of small charges. $27 here, $34 there etc. and she doesn't keep track but it adds up to a couple hundred bucks every time she goes. 3-4 trips a week times a couple hundred bucks and it turns into my only financial complaint.
  6. pbratton

    pbratton Member

    Oct 21, 2011
    Sugar Land, Tx
    Not judgement sir, my two cents. If you don't like it, don't pick it up.
  7. Mowingmaniac 24/7

    Mowingmaniac 24/7 TGT Addict

    Nov 7, 2015
    I've only read page 1, but Axxe and I have the same 'not asking permission' philosophy.

    And, my wife doesn't ask me either.

    We're good with this approach with what we want to buy, when we want buy, where we etc.....and we're not and never have been in debt.

    Yeah, betcha that's not true because you have a mortgage and vehicles to buy on the installment plan.

    Nope, we bought everything we own - outright!

    Including house/land/vehicles and all else.
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  8. cjtexas

    cjtexas Member

    Oct 21, 2009
    West Texas
    It’s weird how this thread almost says what we would say. “Oh baby, I’ve had that for forever, I like your shoes, that I’ve never seen before Imelda.....(she hates being called Imelda). It’s funny. Enjoy life, the world
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  9. Axxe55

    Axxe55 Professional Troublemaker

    Dec 15, 2019
    Not my problem you have difficulty with reading comprehension!
  10. Texasjack

    Texasjack TGT Addict TGT Supporter

    Jan 3, 2010
    Occupied Texas
    I don't ask permission, but I always take responsibility for anything I do. To me, that's what defines you as a man.

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