I constantly update the better half with the current state of our finances, and where the funds are. It confuses her sometimes (I juggle a half-dozen different accounts w/different earmarks in my head, often moving funds between them if needed). We tease about the finances a lot, but IF I want something, I'll get it - just as she will. If it's out of her budget, I find what/where it is, and make the proper arrangements. She waits for nothing longer than 48 hours (my choice). I might wait months to a year for something on my list, but I don't care - it's not a "got to have".