This is true; big blue only cares in two instances; 1)one is signing the O/EPR of the other, and 2)when it becomes known and is substantiated. It doesn’t have to be publicly known, but let’s say the diddle-ee’s spouse finds out about it (or was even actively participating) and then give photos to the command. Or a SARC/SHARP/whatever the hell they call it accusation is made.…That said, there always has been a lot of diddling going on....
Those are the things that put good order and discipline at risk.