My wife's first gun was a Kahr 40 s&w. She had the highest score in the class for a carry permit. She thinks a 1911 is too large.I've always liked my S&W M&P 40 Shield compact. It's easy to conceal, shoots very accurately, and I've never had any issues with a 40 S&W cartridge being "snappy" in the recoil dept.
I personally won't own a 9mm firearm.
Didn’t you just buy a Canik?