Want to learn how to handle a car? Move to a state that gets snow and get good in winter conditions.
No video game has the physics right. Only place they're right is in the real world.
Auto cross is the most fun you can have on 4 wheels! I've been a few times and wish I could do it more. Alas... the real world has other plans for my weekends. If nothing else, one trip so you can see how well your car really does handle.